Guest List Management

Master your wedding guest list with our complete guide. Tips for creating, managing, and trimming your guest list without the stress.

1 Creating Your Initial List

  • Each partner creates their own list first
  • Divide into A-list (must invite) and B-list
  • Consider venue capacity as your upper limit
  • Include plus-ones strategically
  • Discuss family obligations early
  • Set a clear cutoff for work colleagues

2 Trimming Tips

  • The one-year rule: invite people you've seen in the past year
  • No obligation to invite coworkers' spouses you haven't met
  • Children: decide an age cutoff and stick to it
  • Extended family: set boundaries that apply equally to both sides
  • Social media friends: online friendship does not equal a wedding invitation

3 Managing RSVPs

  • Send invitations 6-8 weeks before
  • Set RSVP deadline 3-4 weeks before
  • Use digital RSVP tracking alongside mail
  • Follow up with non-responders at the 2-week mark
  • Have a plan for unexpected plus-ones
  • Keep a waitlist from your B-list

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